Have you ever said something and then wished you could take it back? When you saw the look on the other person’s face that showed that you hurt or offended them, and your stomach felt sick because you spoke too harshly or too quickly without thinking? Ugh. If I sound like I’m speaking from experience, I am.
Weak is he who permits his thoughts to control his actions; strong is he who forces his actions to control his thoughts.
I’m reading a book called The Influencer by Joseph Grenny and team. I’m learning that those who want to excel at anything must practice the necessary behaviors so that they become vital habits. This requires deliberate practice and the ability to manage our emotions. To me, someone who manages their emotions well also manages what comes out of their mouth well. And if that is managed well, chances are that every day will be a happy and productive day. I’m getting better, but I still slip here and there, and I pay for it in lost days of guilt and regret.
Thankfully, I am learning skills through the Master Keys to better control my emotions under times of stress. My thoughts tell my body (i.e. my mouth) how to act, so if my thoughts are on love, gratitude, and kindness, my words will follow. As I grow older, good relationships become more and more important to me, as peace in my life is one of the things I seek. I can only achieve this with deliberate practice and daily prayer.
How are YOU doing with controlling your emotions?